Are you hooked on drugs, alcohol or know someone that is?
Substance addiction can simply be defined as a pattern of harmful use of any substance for mood-altering purposes. Medline's medical encyclopedia defines drug abuse as "the use of illicit drugs or the abuse of prescription or over-the-counter drugs for purposes other than those for which they are indicated or in a manner or in quantities other than directed."
We All Have Addictions
"Why don't you just quit?" That's what most of us who have never dealt with drugs or alcohol would like to say to people with addictions. If someone has chosen to drink, pop pills, or use meth, then they can just as easily choose to quit - if they really want to. Right?
If you have ever tried to give up an addiction, you know it's not that simple. And if you think you don't have an addiction, then ask yourself these questions: Is there something in my life that I know isn't good for me, but I do it anyway? Could I give it up for seven days? How about for a month? How about for six months? How about for a lifetime? For me, it's sugar. Two years ago, my husband Gerald and I saw a story about how bad sugar is for your body. There's nothing good about it. We decided that it was something we needed to stop eating. So we did. After a month, we felt better than we had for years. My knees didn't hurt any more (sugar attaches to your joints). After six months, we'd both lost more than 30 pounds. Then July rolled around and both our grandchildren were having birthday parties. And birthday parties mean cake (sugar)! We thought, Oh, it's just this one time, and it's for such a special occasion... Well, that was it! Just like that, we were back to eating sugar and back to hurting ourselves - and of course gaining the weight back. We were like people who have a drug or alcohol problem who tell themselves that just once wouldn't hurt anything. Who were we kidding? For me sugar is an addiction, and giving it up hasn't been easy. But let's face it: if you think giving up anything is easy, then try it for a week, or a month. Or a lifetime. (Could you give up television for a month? How about the Internet (Facebook)? So better you say like I use to, why don't they just quit?, look at what you can't just quit. Breaking an addiction takes determination and faith - faith that life can and will be better. That's the message that Serenity Pointe offers. It's become clear to us that helping people overcome addictions would be our greatest and most challenging task.
What is it and how can you prevent it? Domestic violence can be defined to include any violence in the home, including between adult children and other adult family members. However, most people use the term to mean any abusive, threatening or violent behavior between one intimate partner and another.
12 Signs of a Dangerous Relationship
Tips to help you decide and make you more aware.
1.) Jealous: He/She wants to make sure you aren't with anyone else; they call all the time, or shows up without telling you they are coming.
2.) Wants to control you: Wants to know who you talked to and where you were; checks mileage on your car; keeps all the money; makes you ask for their "Okay" to go anywhere or anything.
3.) Expects you to be perfect: They expect you to know what they want and to meet their every need.
4.) Cuts you off from others: They don't want you to see family or friends; won't let you have a phone or car; doesn't want you to work.
5.) Blames others for problems: If anything goes wrong, it's always someone else's fault, the boss, you. Everyone is out to get them.
6.) Hurts animals and children: Kills or punishes animals. Wants children to do things they can't, or teases them until they cry.
7.) Uses force during sex: Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against will during sex. They find the idea rape exciting.
8.) Says things to hurt you: Always criticizes or says cruel things to you; puts you down, curses, calls you ugly names.
9.) Sudden changes in mood: Switches from sweet and loving to mad in a few minutes.
10.) Has hit women before: Has hit women and children in past.
11.) Violence: He/she says they will hurt you; things like, "I will break your neck" then say, "I didn't really mean it."
12.) Blames others for their feelings: They say, : "You're hurting me by not doing what I tell you" or "You make me mad" instead of "I am mad."
When life throws you a curve ball, you don't need a hand-out, you need a hand up!!!Restoring Rural America's faith that life can be better one person at-a-time. By giving them a ''Hand Up'' instead of a hand out.We offer each person in need a way to help themselves by serving their community and in return help them to improve their situation. When they volunteer time we assist them with basic survival needs like rent and utilities. We have found giving them the opportunity to restore their own situation is the best answer.
Accountability is key... Is it really a Hand Up?
Love it or hate it, government welfare is part of our society. Of course, helping the poor isn't something the government came up with - God commanded it. But what does it mean?
Does helping the poor mean giving handouts?
I don't think so. Before the Great Depression, local churches took on the burden of reaching out to the needy in their communities. When the Depression hit, the churches were tackling too much need with too few resources. So the government stepped in. The modern-day welfare system came together in 1965, when the government declared War on Poverty. In the middle of that decade, about 13 percent of Americans lived at or below the poverty level. By 2009, we had spent more than $8 trillion (yes, trillion) trying to lower the poverty rate. And the result? Not great. In 2009, the poverty rate was 13 percent. Why, after so many years and so many trillions of dollars spent, has nothing changed?
When President Johnson declared War on Poverty, he said welfare would be a "hand up" not a "hand out.." But it hasn't turned out that way. A handout is precisely what many people on welfare receive. If just giving people something could change them, I'm pretty sure it would have by now. But those statistics show that it doesn't. The bottom line is that handouts don't work, because they don't teach people anything except how to be dependent on handouts.
At Serenity Pointe, our goal is to help people become independent - independent from drugs, abusive relationships, and, eventually, from financial assistance. We help people learn to stand on their own and take control of their lives. But freedom takes work, and some people just don't want to make the effort. They come to us expecting to trade a sad story for something of value. So how do we know which people come to us with a real desire to better their lives, and which are just looking for a freebie?
First, we let them know right upfront that we have a "sweat equity" policy at Serenity Pointe. Anyone receiving financial assistance from us, whether it's rent money or a utility payment or a washing machine, has to give back (for example, by volunteering at the thrift store). They also must attend financial management classes. When people find out that they have to earn their assistance and learn how to manage their money, about 60-70 percent of them walk out the door and don't come back.
For those who stay, we do our homework. First, we check our database to see if the person has been "benefit shopping" at any other social service providers in our area, then we check out their story. Since we opened our doors in 2008, Serenity Pointe has helped about 1500 people. We could not do that without your support. We never forget that we are accountable to you and to God for how we run this ministry, and will always strive to be worthy of your trust.
Our children today are seeking guidance and hope. Let's get together and give our kids a chance.
The Give A Kid A Chance is a project that is a community wide effort. Serenity Pointe is proud to be a contributor to it. The program gives underprivileged and at-risk youth the opportunity to participate in enriching programs, not otherwise available to them, due to financial barriers or other hardships. The ''Give a Kid a Chance'' program''s goal is to ensure that all youth who are heading back to school have what they are in need of in order to do their best in school.
We believe in being a small part in God's plan to help people! Many people have struggles in life. Serenity Pointe has partnered with Christian non- profit organizations that offer a hand up instead of a hand out
Algood Senior Center
Christian Faith Ministries
Clean Heart Ministries
Cookeville Pregnancy Center
Cookeville Cancer Foundation
Hope House Pikeville
S Double A Ranch
Sequatchie Senior Center
Van Buren Food Bank
Warren Food Bank
Warren Hope Center
White County Senior Center
Life is hard enough by yourself. Serenity Pointe will help you on your journey called ''Life'' with a few skills that will make it easier down the road.Life skills are problem solving behaviors used appropriately and responsibly in the management of personal affairs. They are a set of human skills acquired via teaching or direct experience that are used to handle problems and questions commonly encountered in daily human life. The subject varies greatly depending on societal norms and community expectations.
If you feel you need assistance with substance abuse, the Hope Center of Warren County, S Double A Ranch of Sequatchie and Clean Heart Ministries of White County can be of assistance.
If you feel you need assistance with Domestic Violence, The Hope Center of Warren County offers Domestice Violence Education and support groups.